| This phenomenological study explored the lived experiences of never married women over 40, who struggled with the stereotypes of "old maid" and "spinster," as well as psychological obstacles brought on by being never married, childless, and middle-aged in a married society. In addition to hearing their personal stories and experiences first hand, this study also discovered healing methods that were derived and utilized successfully by the case subjects in overcoming the stigmas of being never married. These healing methods proved to be instrumental in achieving a life that was meaningful and whole without being a wife and mother.; This study interviewed four never-married women over 40 in depth. From this study resulted prominent themes and healing methods shared by the women that lead to self-actualization, independence, enlightenment, and causes greater than themselves. It was a journey that produced jewels inside their hearts and souls, which gave them self-confidence and inner strength that defied all the negativity of being never married.; There is still a great lack of research conducted in understanding never-married women over 40 in our culture. Therefore, this study is crucial in showing support for this population, as well as sharing healing methods that may serve as tools for other women who may be struggling alone. This study can also assist therapists to educate themselves about never-married women over 40 and overcome any existing biases, and help restore hope and acceptance to never-married women who are often rejected by society for not following the traditional paths of wife and mother. Overall, this study gives us a glimpse into the private lives of never-married women over 40, who were courageous enough to share their painful memories, as well as their triumphs, in hopes of helping those who may be suffering in silence. |