Experiencing interpersonal grace: Transformation following experiences of disgrace

For some individuals, experiences of disgrace are followed by healing and growth. This study examines individuals who, through personal choices resulting in negative outcomes, then experienced transformation and healing. The psychological construct of interpersonal grace is introduced, defined and supported as the outcome of transformation following experiences of disgrace. Interpersonal grace is operationalized as a relational, subjective experience of unearned positional favor. Utilizing qualitative phenomenological research methods, personal experiences given by participants served as data for analysis of the construct of interpersonal grace, as well as constructs of transformation and disgrace.;Interviews were analyzed using the Giorgi phenomenological method. Significant patterns were discovered in disgrace experiences including patterns of addictive behavior displayed by all participants, not solely substance abusers. Constituents of disgrace included pervasive estrangement from family and friends, cognitive dissonance, denial and distorted cognitive processes. Affective states included mental pain, shame and guilt, embarrassment and humiliation, sadness/loss and powerlessness.;Transformation occurred for six of the seven individuals interviewed and began with the cessation of destructive behaviors. Relationally based, transformation reflected acceptance of and engagement in relationships in replacement of previous estrangement, and surrender to a higher power. Participants described transformation as spiritual or faith journeys. Transformation transpired as life-altering experiences significantly changing individual's worldviews and self-constructs.;New positions of unearned interpersonal favor with others were described as relational experiences which provided acceptance with confirmation, making amends, confession of transgressions and renewed responsibility. All participants reported interpersonal grace occurring within community. Findings demonstrated increased cognitive alternatives, increased prosocial behavior, and new levels of psychic integration. Affective states experienced through grace included humility, forgiveness, acceptance and affirmation, gratitude, hope and encouragement.;Support was found for the theory of Martin Buber in defining the transformative possibilities between individuals as I-Thou encounters consisting of acceptance with confirmation. The expansion of the definition of addiction beyond substance abuse was well supported. Adversarial or stress-related growth research was expanded to include growth following self-induced adversity. Clinical relevance provides guidance for clinicians to assist clients move from positions of self-imposed disgrace into positions of grace reflecting renewed possibility for the future, healing and growth.