| This project connects this author's personal grief narrative with scholarly literature in order to help church leaders and others in the congregation, as they work with families who are experiencing grief due to the death of a child. This paper begins by defining grief, identifying different types of grief, and specifying how grief is uniquely and individually experienced (physically, emotionally, behaviorally, socially and spiritually). Chapter 2 discusses when to seek professional help as well as encourages one to look for the positives in grief experiences. Though many have formulated stages of grief, the bereaved need to be reminded there is no one perfect way to grieve.;When death occurs, it affects the entire family. Children and adolescents must not be overlooked and left on their own to deal with sorrow. Though their mourning exhibits itself differently from adults, it is real and life-changing. Chapter 3 reminds the reader that those who grieve, no matter their age, need a care-giving companion and confidant.;It is not uncommon for the bereaved, in the midst of suffering, to ask "Where is God?" and "Why did God allow the death of my loved one?" Chapter 4 speaks to this spiritual anguish by discussing the relationship of God to pain and suffering, responses to suffering on the personal level, cross bearing, and theodicy. A brief exegesis of the book of Job and Hebrews chapter 11 helps define the role of faith during suffering.;Due to the nature of grief affecting all areas of a person's life, there is a strong need for community and solidarity in sorrow. The Christian community can help meet these needs through purposeful, compassionate care-giving, extending the ministry of presence, listening, serving, remembering, and offering grief recovery support groups. It is important for the bereaved to have an opportunity to express feelings, concerns, needs and memories. Utilizing expressive arts is a creative, healing way to accomplish this. These endeavors include writing, art, music, nature, photography, humor and special days and traditions.;One should not underestimate the value of knowledgeable and caring family, friends, pastors, and Christian caregivers as they accompany the bereaved on their journey of grief. Chapter 7 presents ideas to help one develop a sensitive spirit that desires to share the pain, not advice or answers. Many well-meaning people unintentionally speak words that harm rather than heal. They may aspire to follow the Golden Rule, but since they have not personally experienced the death of a child, they stand in need of guidance.;Appendixes include Helping Children Cope with Trauma; Encouraging Scriptures; Organizations and Programs for the Bereaved; Songs to Encourage, Inspire and Express Emotions; and Books, DVDs and Grief Curriculum one may find helpful.;Key Words: grief, mourning, bereaved, loss, death of child, faith, Job, Hebrews 11, theodicy, theology of suffering, expressions of grief, grief journey, grief support, grief witness, pastors, church leaders, community of faith, children, adolescents, compassionate care-giving, family and friends. |
