A Study On The Concept Of Marriage And Love Among Post-90s Unmarried Female Postgraduates In My Country

From the perspective of the social development of the youth,the three core elements are education,employment and marriage.The study of the view of marriage and love is also a tradition in the study of marriage and family,which can provide a window to understand the values of young people in different periods.With the continuous acceleration of the process of social modernization,people's ideas are changing with each passing day.After entering the 21 st century,the post-90 s play an important role in the society and become the successor of the new era.As an important part of social culture,the view of marriage and love has a great impact on people's subsequent living conditions.Since the implementation of the basic national policy of "equality between men and women",the post-90 s female postgraduates have received scientific,cultural and moral education.The view of marriage and love shown in this group can represent the development trend of the view of marriage and love of young women in the future.In today's society,the single rate and divorce rate are soaring.The author hopes that through the study of the post-90 s female postgraduate's view of marriage and love to help understand the causes of this problem,it can also provide a reference for solving family conflicts,and then improve family relations and promote the harmonious development of both men and women.Firstly,this paper expounds the research background and significance,puts forward the research object,content and method,clarifies the relevant concepts,and combs the theoretical basis and research results at home and abroad,so as to lay a foundation for the smooth development of the following paper.Secondly,taking the unmarried female postgraduates of the 90 s as the research object,this paper uses the methods of literature,interview and questionnaire to carry out the research on the view of marriage and love,which are complementary to each other.Through the analysis of their views on love,mate selection,marriage and family,sex and procreation,it can be seen that most of the respondents are willing to pursue romantic love and spiritual integration,so it is necessary to identify with love.Their ideal way is to meet their partners in social activities and decide who to be with.On the motivation of love,we can separate love and marriage,and face the failure of love rationally and calmly.In terms of mate selection,the three most important elements are personality,physical and mental health,and capability.They agree with the premarital sexual behavior based on love,treat extramarital love rationally,and tend to return to tradition in terms of fertility intention.Through the supplement of interview,it can be concluded that the unmarried female postgraduates of the 1990 s agree that men and women share the same view of gender equality in marriage and love,but they can't get rid of their preference for traditional gender image when choosing a mate,they pursue gender equality in marriage and love interaction,but play the role of passive in love,think themselves as the weak party in gender status,and play the traditional role in family division of labor.They pursuit free and happy sexual rights,but can not escape from the cage of traditional sexual norms.From the perspective of gender,the author analyzes the factors that influence the marriage attitudes of the unmarried female postgraduates,including the traditional patriarchy which constructs the differences in gender status between men and women,the stereotype in cultural customs which divides gender roles,and the progress of medical science and technology which supports women to pursue gender rights freely and safely,making the standard marriage mode ‘sex-family-childbearing' weakening gradually.At the same time,with the rise of Western feminist thoughts and Chinese feminist culture,the post-90 s unmarried female postgraduates internalized the socialist values of equality between men and women into their own values,with the rise of their self-consciousness and female gender consciousness,trying to break away from the shackles of traditional roles and behavior norms that existed in the custom culture for a long time,and their rights in families as well as in labor market.The court strives for the equal rights of men and women,enjoys the equal rights of men and women,and is willing to fulfill the equal obligations of men and women.In the process of accepting the socialization,it has formed a contradictory view of marriage and love.To sum up,in view of the problems existing in the view of marriage and love between the post-90 s unmarried female postgraduates,this paper puts forward its own opinions and countermeasures,including advocating diversified gender culture,breaking the gender stereotype of binary opposition,opposing the formatted division of gender,establishing and improving the institutionalized gender sensitive policy,and integrating gender perspective into policy-making and teaching activities.We should formulate gender sensitive policies to promote gender equality,reshape diversified gender education,enhance gender sensitive awareness of the whole society,acquire gender communication and communication skills,and cultivate positive gender interaction psychology.I hope that the suggestions in this paper can provide reference for the unmarried female postgraduates of the 90 s to form a positive outlook on marriage and love,improve the quality of marriage and life,and realize their own values.With the expansion of university enrollment in educational reform,university education is popular in the society.The research on the post-90 s group in the new era is in line with the development of the times.Due to the large number of this group and the different characteristics of regional life and other reasons,the deep mining of the research data is not enough,and the extension range is not enough.Therefore,the analysis of the problems is not comprehensive enough,the thinking is not deep enough,and the suggestions are not full enough.However,the research of this paper still hopes that different levels of society will be paid more attention to.From the perspective of society,school,family and unmarried female graduate students themselves,a positive view of marriage and love will be formed to create a harmonious social environment.