True·Mistaken·Spirital·Trading

According to Robert- J- Sternberg "love triangle theory", from the classification method of cross Multi Standard in the thought of Buddhism,Intimacy, passion and sense of responsibility,these three components,play key roles in love,which are far more important than other components.The presence or absence of these three factors will affect changes in relationships.They are obviously different and interrelated.According to the presence of these factors,the love writing points can be divided into four parts:the true love writing,the dead love writing,the spirit love writing and the trading love writing.The true love writing discusses that both in the relationship are in a state of intense affection(intimacy,passion and responsibility are present):“Married”and “Not be togethered”.“Married” discusses that the relativly perfect state of love exist and how true love can be maintained in a stable condition;“Not be togethered” discusses that people in true love encounter reality who are in a separate state but love each other and express that true love is tenacious.The two parts express that true love is in the different directions under the influence of external force and experience writers’ the dig of true love power.The dead love writing discusses that two people no longer love each other(at the beginning of love,intimacy,passion and responsibility are in a certain degree of steady that love has weakened over time):“Consumption of life in a abnormal relationship”、“Love is lost in reality”and “The differences of thoughts”.“Consumption of life in a abnormal relationship” discusses that the abnormal love relatioship harms people;“Love is lost in reality” discusses that love is fragile which is faced reality;“The differences of thoughts” discusses that when people hold different thoughts,love is faced by choices.The three parts express that love’s decline and experience writers’ the dig that love is fragile.The spirit love discusses that there is a lack of physical relationship and only spirital contact in the relationship:“Unrequited love”and “Mutual affection”.“Unrequited love”discusses that A love relationship is not made by the other Party response selection,analyzes the importance of rational emotional face setbacks;“Mutual affection”discusses that "Hit it off each other love" discusses the no sex, air, and spiritual love each other love relationship between the existence of the state, analyzes the spiritual love pure and vitality. Analysis of the above two parts can be drawn from the spiritual level of love of the different state of existence, experience the spirit of thewriters of different forms of thinking.The trading love discusses that love writing explores the love relationship with mutual interphase or one party to the other party exist as relations based love state(i.e.the existence of intimacy, passion and commitment to use is as the cover of the relationship between love and relationships), divided into "by emotional deception of purpose", "through the life partnership enhance quality of life", "the transaction solve real needs" and "through marriage in exchange for resources" four parts. "To achieve"by cheating is discussed to achieve their purpose by cheating the other person’s feelings, emotions of absurd deception tools; "life through partnerships to enhance the quality of life" is discussed using the common way of life and life quality to reduce emotional pressure on the analysis of the space dependence and have in common the relationship is not only the real feelings with practical purpose sad; "through the transaction solution discussed as trading tools, analysis of the actual needs to be used for improper purposes will be distorted, based on the real feelings is healthy and legitimate;" through marriage in exchange for resources "discusses the marriage relationship as a means of advanced life, analysis of the marital relationship is distorted state interests coerced. Analysis of the above four parts can be obtained in a love relationship, different trading means bring different roles, experience of writer of the love relationship is interests held criticism.