The Value Orientation And Contemporary Transformation Of The Family Tradition And Education

"Home is the smallest country while country is the biggest home." Family is a cell of a country and the cradle of inheriting life, culture and behavior. A family spirit must be a microcosm of social and national ethos. If family members can get along well with each other and the family can develop harmoniously, the nation will be in harmonious and in peace. To develop a healthy family, family tradition and education is one of spiritual tie which is full of positive energy. Family tradition and family education are closely linked and inseparable. Family tradition is a kind of family education influencing family members by osmosis. It is a mode of life and spirit of doing formed in the process of propagation. Family education is a mode of inheritance of family tradition. It is the daily education of family members in the family life. Family tradition and education is moral culture having ethical significance and ethical spirit and including loyalty, self-cultivation, service for country, honesty, frugality, filial piety and so on, which exist in every stage of human survival and development. It is not only related to the growth of people and related to the happiness and harmony of family life, but also related to whether the social and national atmosphere good or not.With the transformation and the development of society, the number of original four generations of a family and five generations of a family gradually decrease, showing a trend of miniaturization with a great change of family values and family relations. Besides, the enhancement of social mobility, the increment of absence of family members, and the ignorance of exchanging emotion influencing most of inheriting family tradition and education. At the same time, along with the great pressure of population and the practice of family planning, children have become the center of the family, thus the strict good family tradition and education in the traditional family lost its original effect on children now. Facing the change of family structure and centre, instead of obeying the overall interest of family unconditionally, people become to pay attention to the pursuit of their rights and obligations and free will. However, it is reduce its effect because the traditional family tradition and education excessive suppress personal values and sense of freedom.Aiming at the problems between the traditional family tradition and education and the development of modern society, it is asked to cultivate a new family tradition and education, which adapt to the development of society and requirement of socialism with Chinese characteristics.The cultivation of new family tradition and education can not only protect the family happiness and harmony under the new family structure, promote moral quality of members, strengthen the guidance and education of family moral education, and also can contact it with usual family life when advocating the socialist core values that as the starting point, finding the appropriate cultural soil and good basis of the mass. Since the eighth People’s Congress, the integration of the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation and the socialist core values in new period of the national moral essence view put forward new requirements to the construction of family tradition and education, especially at the level of the individual "patriotism, dedication, integrity, kindness", involving of the social morality, occupation morality, family virtue, personal morality. As the development of society, the demand of new family ethical spirit should be surpassed the traditional one of China and the western individualism values. It should abandon the cultural draff of Chinese traditional ethic and morality in the feudal, draw the natural emotion about family human relations and morality, as well as the reasonable ethic of coordinate family interpersonal relations, draw lessons from western cultural morality education methods which respect the principal position of personal freedom and bear the responsibility of making choice for freedom by itself. On the base of abandoning these two values, it should set up a double value orientation family ethic of individuals and families by unified the freedom and responsibility. It requires the individual to treat his families and friends with kindness, to fulfill the obligation and responsibility to the family, and to highlight the family rights and values. At the same time, it also requires the family to pay attention to member’s rights and the values, to guarantee member’s independence of personality and freedom. Only by this way can the family ethical spirit be in accordance with the development demand of modern society.