Interpretation Of Love From A Psychoanalytic Perspective

Starting from the perspective of psychoanalysis,this paper provides a new interpretation of love based on personal life experience.First of all,the paper opposes the theory in psychoanalysis which love generated from the biological needs of the body based on the mother infant relationship.It holds a ontological standpoint of love,which holds that love is a new substance born after integration with the other,while desire for love is the most fundamental desire to drive us to seek a feeling of integration with the world.Different emotional ties may take love as the core,or there may be no love involved.Then we propose that the reason why love can be produced needs to be built on such a basis: the baby realizes that he and his mother are two separate existences,and then realizes the inherent separation of himself and the world.So the possibility of love is born from separation and loss.And to truly create love,you must sink into the feelings of the flesh.Therefore,we explored the ways to reach love from the movements of hands and lips and sex,and found that it is difficult to reach love,and love is an almost impossible possibility.Then,we move from the comparison of love and Freudian eros to the relationship of love,hate,and death.We found that hatred and desire for death are almost impossible secondary results of love's fragmentation and fulfillment.The essence of hatred is the denial of one's own existence,and death desire is the expression of this denial.It's just that the object of hate can turn from oneself to the other,to the outside world,and the desire for death is exclusive from beginning to end.Love,hate,and desire for death jointly pave the background of life.Finally,we tried to answer the reason why human beings are so thirsty for love,and concluded in real cases: love can provide us with a kind of safety and lightness as if curled up in a mother's womb.The love with others provides us with a protective space where we can pause and exit,and opens a door that can be freely entered and exited between this space and the real world.Intimacy with the world makes real life itself the protective space.Love is a possibility that almost impossible,and seeing this possibility allows us to live with the awareness of separation,and because it is almost impossible to achieve,we are inevitably subjected to long periods of loss and pain.However,when we begin to try to overcome the distance between people,to overcome their subjectivity to love an other,the victory has been indisputably produced.