Love Beauty And Love Wisdom: A Narrative Study Of Middle School Girls' Love And Their Education

Love,as an important experience in growing up,has a complex and rich influence on middle school girls.However,in our country,this objective educational phenomenon is called "puppy love ".Educators often simplify the relationship between love and learning of middle school students,set the two against each other,and adopt a negative attitude towards the former.This preconceived prejudice hinders the possibility of in-depth understanding towards love for middle school girls.Some of the existing research on middle school students' love mentioned that girls' academic grades are more likely to decline in the process of love,but did not explain its occurrence mechanism.And the qualitative research data are very few,and failed to dig deeply into the love experience of middle school girls.This study aims to deepen the research into individual experience,show the relationship between love and growth of middle school girls and the role of education in it,and explore how educators can better understand and guide the love of middle school girls.Because this study has the characteristics of integrity and scene,the narrative research method is adopted,and six women are selected as the main research object,and the interview method is used as the main data collection method,supplemented by the physical method(including diary,love autobiography,school rules,etc.).The interviews have nearly 120000 words,and be coded by qualitative research method,then extract the theme,and finally be presented as the research text.The study found that:First,high school girls fall in love mostly because of their apperception of the beauty and familiarity of the opposite sex and their desire for self-perfection.With the maturation of reproductive organ function and the appearance of secondary sexual characteristics,they love their different physical characteristics,ways of activity and their inherent health and vitality.At the same time,middle school girls want to be closer with her lover,with self-existence of stretch and abundance.Therefore,the heterosexual love of middle school girls contains the seeds of beauty and love wisdom,and has the possibility of becoming the original sexual motive force of their self-integrity development.Therefore,the first thing to do in education is to face up to and admit the rationality and internal strength of middle school girls' love.Second,because of the randomness,exclusiveness and the dependence of girls,middle school girls will feel confused in love.On the one hand,it causes low self-development,so it is difficult to transcend from the private field and turn to public life and better things;on the other hand,it causes the breakage and division of self-identity.The unrealistic belief in love magnifies the damage in the relationship and has a strong impact on herself,while indulging in the attitude of resistance and releasing their love without restraint will make them fall into nihility.Therefore,education system should actively guide the love of middle school girls.Third,toward the love of middle school girls,we should face up to it,guide it and then promote it to explore the education joint force guidance internal path: takes the respect as the starting point to respect their love privacy to understand their love rationality and give them the space to deal with the emotion question;takes the narrative companionship and the equal dialogue as the process and the method to give them proper protection and the guidance;finally it points to the middle school girl's full and sound development.We should work to transform the middle school girl's love crisis into the growth opportunity,promote their healthy growth,find the overall consciousness between study and growth and turn it to the sustained love of beauty and the wisdom,and then lead a meaningful middle school life.