The Study Of The Issue Of Interpersonal Friendliness In Contemporary China

Contemporary China is basking in a profound social transformation, which has a great impact on interpersonal relationships. From the reality aspect of the contemporary China’s social development, the phenomenon of interpersonal friendliness is booming while the phenomenon of interpersonal unkindness rises in the opposite direction. An undoubtedly important issue is how to look at this practical problem, how to promote the formation of the Interpersonal Friendliness relationship in contemporary China based on the practice of the socialist core values.Interpersonal friendliness refers to the friendliness and kindness reflecting in the process of interpersonal communication in social reality, which implies the value of “truth ", “kindness" and "beauty". Interpersonal friendliness is a reflection of friendly relationship between people. The interrelation between ethics and morality, state and society, public sector and private sector in real life will affect the friendly relationship between people. Therefore, the investigation to the issue of interpersonal friendliness in contemporary China cannot just be limited to ethical behavior on individual level.Discussion of the issue of interpersonal friendliness relies on discussion of theoretical issues. As an eternal topic, interpersonal friendliness has rich theoretical resources since the beginning of human society. Throughout the studies of interpersonal friendliness in China and the western countries, two approaches of theories of narration have been formed, that is the approach of group and the approach of individual. The former approach takes the ethical relations of universal dimension as a starting point and promotes interpersonal friendliness from the perspective of group priority. While the latter depends on the freedom of individual moral in particular dimension and promotes interpersonal friendliness by advocating the priority of personal freedom. From Marx’s view of interpersonal friendliness, we can find that the two narrative approaches, that is the approach of group and the approach of individual subjectivity have their own weakness and problems. Interpersonal friendly theory in contemporary China, therefore, must effectively surpass the above two theoretical approaches, to promote the development of interpersonal friendliness based on the integration of individual and group relations.The Chinese Communist Party ’ s interpersonal friendly thoughts are the development of Marxist friendly view in contemporary China, which are the theoretical foundation to solve the issue of interpersonal friendliness in contemporary China. Therefore, it is necessary to analyze the views of MAO Zedong, Deng Xiaoping, Jiang Zemin, Hu Jintao, Xi Jinping, five generations of collective leadership of China, on interpersonal friendliness. Through the analysis of interpersonal friendly value in contemporary China and in combination with the reality of friendly phenomenon, this study finds that the phenomenon of interpersonal friendliness in contemporary China mainly presents two kinds of reality, that is civil morality in the relationship between “state and individual”(identity friendliness) and the friendliness under the relationship of "state- society"( generativity friendliness)The issue of practice is also another important aspect of the issue of interpersonal friendliness in China. Starting from the contemporary Chinese social reality, interpersonal friendliness has always been the mainstream of the reality in contemporary China. However, interpersonal friendliness in China mixes with all kinds of unfriendly behavior, mainly reflecting in unfriendliness between strangers, knowing goodness but not doing goodness. In order to grasp the problem better,we concluded the main unfriendly phenomenon in contemporary China as four types,hierarchical concept, moral indifference, social exclusion, resentment inferior. However, in the process of the cognition of the issue of interpersonal friendliness, moral evaluation is an important aspect of the issue. Marx’s view of moral evaluation is important for us to recognize the problem. It is an inevitable requirement to alert the generalization of moral criticism in the process of the above evaluation.To probe into the reasons of interpersonal unfriendly phenomenon in contemporary China is an important aspect of the cognition of this issue.However, whichever aspect of the issue of interpersonal friendliness in contemporary China is influenced by logic of system, logic of governance and logic of culture.system injustice is the source of interpersonal friendliness,System does not guarantee which de-constructs the enthusiasm of friendly behavior;the punishment of the active behavior is not enough and the loss of good governance in logic of governance, which hindered the generation of interpersonal friendliness;the restriction of subjectivity culture in the process of modernity、the decline of traditional constraints of culture itself and its effect、the shock by Network negative culture, which are all the cultural reasons of interpersonal friendliness.From a logical perspective, to promote the construction of interpersonal friendliness in contemporary China mainly aims to inhibit the occurrence of interpersonal unfriendliness and continue to promote the development of positive behavior of interpersonal unfriendliness. Starting from the reality of interpersonal friendliness in contemporary China and integrating individual and community, we should coordinate the relations of “state-individual” and “state-society” in the process of dynamic practice. We should promote the establishment of interpersonal friendliness from the aspects of civic education, system construction, cultural construction and social governance.