A Study On The Qualitative Study Of College Students' Love Violence After

This paper studies the college students’ dating violence, attempting to redefine a framework of college students’ dating violence, breaking the polarization, which holds that college students love if it weren’t for "pure beauty, no violence" is "because of the love produce extreme school violence", an attempt to restore real situation of college students dating violence. In this paper, the study found that college students dating violence exists "love and violence " together, can’t view love and violent duality in isolation, it is difficult to define violence on one side, who is no love, also by an other is full of hate, so should change the past view stiffly about "criticism for abusive person forever and sympathy for abused person forever". In addition, this study breaks the framework of family violence, because dating violence is based on the gender equality, including men’s violence against women also include women against men, jump out of the past is generally believed that "men are always abusive and women are always and only abused " image. At the same time this study focus on the fact of female violence.In this paper, the research object is some college students,who borned 90 s,select the group as the research object, because they have its particularity: they grow up during late China’s reform and opening up, is mostly only- children, as well as the material conditions improve along with "one-child" policy leading less companions, parents busy with career and cared less, the contradiction of the more satisfaction of material and the lack of communication with the family, make part of t hem lack a sense of security, so they show requires a great deal of love and attention, and manipulative. If the so-called "unreasonable" strategy can cause the attention of parents in child period, they are likely to continue in love time, become a "barbaric" strategy. Anather, college students generally considered cultural and quality group, to accept the modern social culture, deeply influenced by the western culture and network culture, cultural awareness and values diversity and identity of gender equality, emphasizing the independence and individuality, their love, compared with the traditional,show multivariate, more emphasis on the process and the sense of self, so their love will exist violence widesly, and there will be any different? In addition, this paper attempts to study the new image about "sassy girl and tender boy" how to shape and whether be real accpepted by society?...