Confidante,from Boudoir To Public Space

In "Second Sex," Beauvoir pointed out that "the whole history of women was written by men." Giddens also made a similar statement:"In the past,men assumed their own activities constitute History,and women exist almost outside of time,and will be left to die forever."(Giddens,2001:78)Traditional Chinese women are subject to the feudal ethical code,often limited to young women's activities in boudoir,married women with "xiangfujiaozi" as the core of life,interpersonal relationships is simple,it is difficult to develop private friendship outside of family.In the early 20th century,in the process of political revolution in the ups and downs,after countless ancestors spoke to,the idea of equality between men and women is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people,women's social status gradually improved,the scope of the interpersonal extend out of the family;Today,despite many limitations,women have gained basic rights in study,employment and political demands,and have stronger autonomy in interpersonal communication.This study through the in-depth interviews with 14 young women and literature research,summarizes the characteristics of modern women's girlfriends' communication,while passing through traditional periods,political revolutions,and modern times.Diachronic analysis of social women's same-sex relationships has discussed the macro-mechanisms that influence the establishment and development of female homosexual intimacy.First of all,this research defines the relationship between girlfriends and honeymooners,which is to establish a relatively stable and intimate relationship between women of the same age characterized by mutual trust and privacy.The study discussed several factors that formed the relationship between the confidantes:proximity,familiarity,similarity,personality characteristics,and certain special opportunities.Then,through the analysis of the main interactive forms of girlfriend interaction,such as chat,shopping and travel,the important characteristics of the contemporary relationship between confidante are summarized as follows:First,individuals in the relationship between confidantes often have higher levels of self-exposure compared to parents.Young women are more willing to share their privacy with girlfriends.Second,independence is the main feature of modern young women's girlfriends' relationship.Third,the Internet is the main mode of communication between confidantes.There are also conflicts in intimate relationships.There are conflicts due to daily trivia,and there are disputes caused by the destruction of trust.The exclusivity and the need for similar values in the relationship between girlfriends make the involvement of others and differences in values become a relationship that endangers the relationship between confidantes.The main reason for sustained development,the author through the analysis of the specific cases of these two types of conflict,to further develop the discussion of the conflict between confidantes.After a preliminary understanding of the relationship between women and men,the relationship between the formation of the relationship and the microcosmic analysis of the forms and characteristics of the relationship was analyzed.Through the analysis of the social exchange and the common experiences of important life events in the relationship between girlfriends and honeymooners,this study analyzed the relationship between the girlfriends and the young Chinese women.Significant influence:girlfriends will not only affect the formation of individual values and important choices in life,but also provide women with self-identity,self-esteem,and basic emotional needs and spiritual support in the social background of individualized society and a shrinking nuclear family.Finally,this study carried out a historical analysis of the changes in the space of the relationship between confidantes in the traditional period,political revolution,and modern society,and discussed the macro mechanisms that influence the establishment,development,and scope of activities of women's close relationships.The study believes that the popularization of the gender equality concept brought about by the change in social division of labor and the changes in the gender system is the main force that promotes women to move from a boudoir to a public space and establish a private intimate relationship independent of the family.At the same time,inborn differences from the body and deep-rooted gender systems still create inequalities between the sexes,making women's friendships and men's friendships different in the behavioral norms of gender roles.However,with the further development of society,individuals will be given more open and pluralistic choices in the forms of friendship.