-Grade Primary School Student Family Upbringing Way, The Relationship Between Self-control Ability And Social Adaptability

At present, the China’s "exam oriented education" in the basic education schools ingrained,often only pay attention to their cultural knowledge, neglecting the development of other socialability, which leads to the teacher, parents one-sided attach importance to students’ test scores ofchildren in the education process, ignore the social adaptability of the child guidance, causingmany children problems encountered in the process of growing up, do not know how to deal with,lead to all kinds of adaptive problems, these problems, will cause many negative impacts to thehealthy development of the individual. For students, they are in the early stages of growth anddevelopment, investigation of social adaptation, analysis the factors of social adaptation, targetedfor counseling and education in time can improve students’ ability to adapt to society, to solvethe problems and pressures facing the growing, so as to promote their physical and mentalhealth.This paper is based on the theory of educational psychology, the Hu Tao preparation of the"children and adolescents social adjustment scale", Liu Jinhua et al. Preparation of children’s selfcontrol "checklist", on compilation of "Xi Yihua Parenting Style Questionnaire" as the studyquestionnaire, in grade three or four in Primary School of Zaozhuang city were randomlyselected7classes of668students as subjects, investigation and analysis, in order to understandthe status quo of social grade students to adapt to the current primary school in Zaozhuang City,and further reveals the relationship between primary school grade students social adaptabilityand parenting style, self control ability. The research to discover the child’s social maladjustmentphenomenon, analysis of its causes has a certain theoretical significance; at the same time, therelevant research results of the study on the social adaptation of children scheme put forwardappropriate to the school, the family together. To let the child health, harmonious, all-rounddevelopment, to create a good environment for the growth, has the important practicalsignificance.The study found:(1) Grade students in primary school social adaptability has the significantdifference in gender, grade, urban and rural three. The boys in the dimension of socialadaptability and social adaptability of the total scored significantly lower than girls; gradeprimary school students exists significant differences between urban and rural areas in the socialadaptability, social adaptability in total score and the score, score higher than the score of city;grade primary school students has significant grade differences in social adaptability, specific performance as with higher grade, social adaptation but show a downward trend.(2) Parentingstyle, self control ability and primary school grade students social adaptability significantlycorrelated and extensive. Family upbringing warmth, trust encourage students social adaptabilityscore in dimension and the primary school was significantly positive related; autocracy, spoiled,ignore the dimension and the middle grade of primary school students’ social adaptability scoresshowed a significant negative correlation. Self control was significantly positive correlated withthe primary school grade students social adaptability.(3) parenting style, self control caneffectively predict the middle grade of primary school students’ social adaptability.(4) selfcontrol in authoritarian, indulgent, ignore the way of family education and primary school playsfull intermediary role between the grade students social adaptability.