Study On Intergenerational Conflict About Spouse-selection

Spouse is an important area of family sociology research,in real life is also in the center of marriage and family.The social change of the spouse behavior not only can reflect the shaping of the individual to the individual,but also can reveal the specific characteristics of the individual's choice in the macro background.For the family,the mate is the inevitable choice of the family,on the one hand the father of the progenitor wish independent portal,on the other hand,the progeny also have the inevitable need for mate.The ideal idealized spouse process is a natural process in which both men and women are willing to enter the stage of marriage through a series of emotional connections to maintain a certain degree of mutual attraction.However,in real life,due to social changes and other factors,resulting in the family intergenerational differences are too large,the offspring and the father of the meaning of the different understanding and understanding of the meaning of intergenerational choice between the expectations and reality there is a contradiction between Gap,resulting in tension within the inter-family within the family,family conflicts continue,or there is no marriage,"left men" "left women" and fear of marriage,forced marriages and other phenomena.This paper tries to draw the following conclusions from the three aspects of the performance,causes and results of the parental intergenerational mating behavior:At the micro level,the specific manifestations of the parental intergenerational electromolic behavior have the dislocation of the spouse of the intergenerational subject,the dislocation of the mate function,the difference of the choice of the spouse and the asymmetry of the mate selection criterion.At the macro level,the parental intercession of the intergenerational electronegame shows the characteristics of change from economy to culture,from others to self-identity,from family function to self-realization and from singleness to pluralism.In this paper,we examine the conflict of roles in the intergenerational relationship from the perspective of the role theory,and think that there is a deviation between the intergenerational expectations,the misplaced role play,the offset of the role recognition And the role of normative imbalance.In the results of the parental intercession and mate behavior,there are three cases of unilateral concessions,mutual compromise and both sides.In addition,this paper also expands the research conclusion from the macroscopic angle by analyzing and analyzing the interview data,tries to analyze the rationality of the conclusion from the family standard and the individual standard,and then puts forward some reflections and countermeasures on the intergenerational conflict.