A Study On The Parents And Children Psychological Boundary Of High School Students

In the counseling cases of high school students,the common issue is the relationship between parents and children.Rebellious character is often reflected in parent-child interaction process,the researchers found that some children have no way to deal with the relationship between with parents,they don't know what is to be able to decide,what is the need to negotiate with their parents can ask for consent,which is absolutely not allowed and accepted by parents.The purpose of this study is to understand the psychological boundary of high school students' interaction with their parents through in-depth interviews,participatory observation and survey of close contacts(classmates,head teachers,psychological teachers,etc.).Through the analysis and research on the collected information,the researchers found that :(1)the personalized boundary interaction mode can provide enough development space for parents and children.The psychological boundary is clear,and there are good differences and connections between individuals and the outside world.The boundary thickness is moderate;(2)The undifferentiated boundary interaction mode will invade the psychological boundary of children to varying degrees.The psychological boundary is vague.The boundary of female primary caretakers is thin;(3)Forced identification of boundary interaction mode will invade the psychological boundary of children to varying degrees.The psychological boundary of the male primary caregiver is thick and clear,but it is like a wall with poor permeability and indifference to external emotions.The parent-child relationship of obedience and obedience is not conducive to the development of children's independence.Based on the current situation of the interaction between high school students and their parents' psychological boundaries,this paper proposes the following Suggestions:(1)the method of establishing boundaries;(2)the cultivation of sense of responsibility;(3)the reasonable treatment of conflicts,so as to play a positive role in the establishment and maintenance of high school students' parent-child psychological boundaries.