A Study Of Collective Anxiety In The Process Of Spouse Selection

Blind date as one of the means of mate selection,its form and connotation are in constant renovation and expansion.The rise of Park matchmaking and "white-haired matchmaking" reflects the collective marital anxiety of urban people.In this paper,the parents and elders of urban single youth and single youth who participate in park matchmaking roles are investigated.Through the participation and observation of F City Park matchmaker,on the basis of mastering a large number of first-hand information,the evolution of people's concept of marriage and love behind "old-fashioned blind date" to "popular blind date".In the blind date corner of the park in F city,the "white-haired" parents are the cutters of the children's mate selection information.They consciously or unconsciously incorporate the concept and criteria of personal spouse selection into their children's spouse selection activities,showing another anxiety different from that of "leftover men" and "leftover women".Through the analysis of the collective anxiety of the urban youth and their parents,it is found that the narrow communication space in life and the scarcity of opportunities for love and marriage,and the expansion of park culture and communication are the main reasons for the rise of matchmaking corner.The inertia of traditional concepts and the squeeze of marriage and love market lead to the contradiction and conflict that the spiritual needs of contemporary urban youth can not be met,resulting in the spread of marital anxiety,specifically in the view of love and marriage dislocation anxiety,based on the label of anxiety,anxiety of generational infection and around the bride price anxiety.Whether analyzed from the perspective of social capital theory or social exchange theory,contemporary youth's concept of spouse selection is actually the epitome of modern culture.Their behavior reflects the development and change of social politics,culture and economy.The process of matchmaking is a process of constant self-reflection or self-reflection of the youth.This kind of reflection not only refers to a clear understanding of the essence of the mating behavior,but also means a comprehensive and profound reflection on the actors themselves,and constantly clear their own needs.The self-presentation of young people in the period of spouse selection is to create the best self to show the imaginary "ideal self" external image,and to absorb more people to recognize and even "appreciate" themselves.The essential factor of the above-mentioned behavior is the recognition of personal identity,and also the essential need to seek the understanding of others.The collective anxiety of the youth group exactly reflects their desire for emotion in the era of rationalization,and their inner anxiety is inseparable from their family and personal self-identity.