A Study On The Relationship Between The Choice Of Couple’s Discourse And The Harmony

Conversation is an important channel for husband and wife communication daily.As the saying goes,“Good words are three winters,and bad words hurt people in June”,the same is true between husband and wife.Although the relationship between husband and wife is more intimate than other social relationships,the tolerance between husband and wife is higher,if the words are used inappropriately,it can hurt feelings,destroy the harmonious relationship between husband and wife,and affect the development of marriage.Therefore,The important role of discourse in emotional communication cannot be ignored,and the relationship between spouse discourse and harmonious state has important research value.This article uses the discourse between husband and wife in three TV series that are "How to Make a Daughter-In-Law"," Young couples in ups and downs",and " Still husband and wife " as the research corpus,bases on speech act theory and relevance-adaptation theory as the basic theory,comprehensively uses other relevant theories of linguistics,such as the politeness principle and face theory,and usese research methods such as discourse analysis,comparative analysis,graphic analysis and so on,to analyze the discourse characteristics influencing harmonious relationships of couples,explore the specific impact of different discourse styles on family harmonious relationships,finally explore the roots of some discourses that can promote the harmony of husband and wife relationship,and puts forward pragmatic strategies to promote the harmony of husband and wife relationship.This article is divided into six parts,the specific content is as follows:The introduction of the first chapter explains the significance of this topic,summarizes the research status of related content at home and abroad,and introduces the research objects,research methods and corpus sources.The second chapter analyzes the macro discourse phenomenon and communication effects between husband and wife.First,the situation of the five couples studied is briefly introduced.Then,the main speeches between husband and wife are classified according to speech behavior theory and Searle’s classification perspective.Then,according to the actual characteristics of discourse that have a significant impact on the harmonious relationship between husband and wife,specific speech styles are classified from different perspectives,and some specific speech styles and their impact on harmonious relationships between husbands and wives are analyzed.Finally,the different speech characteristics and communicative effects of five couples are explored.The third chapter expounds the relationship between the choice of micro-language form between husband and wife and the harmony of husband and wife.This chapter first analyzes address forms and their effects in the specific discourses that affect the harmonious relationship between husband and wife,and then exhaustively searches for words or phrases with emotional tendencies and explains their impact,so as to get the regularity of the terms of address and the words or phrases with emotional tendencies that promote the harmony between husband and wife.The fourth chapter explores the relationship between the choice of paralanguage in spousal communication and the harmony of husband and wife,and it was found that sound sublanguages such as volume,rate of speech,sentences,and stress,as well as non-sound sublanguages such as facial expressions,visual contact,posture,and gestures,have important effects on harmonious relationships between husband and wife,at the same time,it is found that there is a certain regularity in the paralanguages that promote harmonious relations between husband and wife.The fifth chapter explores the roots and pragmatic strategies of promoting harmonious relationship between husband and wife.This chapter mainly uses the theory of relevance and adaptation to deeply study and explain the roots of promoting the harmonious relationship between husband and wife,and summarizes the pragmatic strategies and its discourse-generating mechanism that promote harmonious couple relations.The sixth chapter is the conclusion of this thesis.This chapter summarizes the views of the full text,and points out the shortcomings of the research.