Mother Came Back,and The Child Became Better

With the acceleration of China's economic process,more and more rural young people choose to work in big cities and put their children in their hometown for foster care.Under this trend,there are more and more rural left-behind children.The education of left-behind children also causes many social problems.From the perspective of attachment theory and hierarchy of needs theory,this paper discusses the influence of left-behind children in rural areas on their family education after one or both parents return.Parents come back to accompany their children,guide and educate them,solve parent-child conflict,parent-child attachment and parent-child affinity,and meet their basic needs and growth needs.Children can get the support and encouragement from their parents and feel the care from their parents,which will have a huge impact on their growth and learning.Taking qualitative research as the main research method,this paper selected two areas with large population output in Sichuan and Chongqing,and explored four left-behind children in different stages as research objects,and made many observations and in-depth interviews on them and their family members to collect data.Among them,the author lived with the two children in high school and middle school for two weeks to observe the family education they received as the mother of family education after their mother came back.When collecting and sorting out the first-hand data,the author codes and analyzes them,finds out a series of physiological,cognitive,social and personality changes of left-behind children after their mothers return,and then conducts research and analysis to explore various changes of children caused by changes in attachment relationship after their mothers return.After the author's observation and studies have shown that mother came back,children have good attachment to the main body,meet the needs of the child,mother and left-behind children in the physical,cognitive,social and personality better,in order to prove their parents is the positive family education main body,their family education on children better.At the same time,I on the four other guardian before mother comes back of left-behind children also conducted interviews,family education on children to others also are analyzed,and the family members are not giving children enough attention and good attachment relationship,not meet the requirements of children's foundation,the left-behind children also are less "obedient".This shows that the "mother" has come back,with the main body of good family education,stable attachment objects,they can meet some needs of children's growth,left-behind children and mothers can get mutual care,stable attachment relationship is formed,the children become more optimistic and positive.This paper consists of seven chapters.The first chapter is the introduction,mainly including the reason for the topic selection,the purpose of the research,and the significance of the research.In the second chapter,we walked into the four left-behind families,how we entered the scene and some of our feelings after entering the scene.Chapter three,the change of children's physical quality;Chapter four: children's cognitive development;Chapter five,the change of the child's personality development;Chapter 6: children's relationship improvement.Chapter 7,research summary and Suggestions.Chapter three,chapter four,chapter five and chapter six carry out relevant investigations and researches based on several dimensions of children's growth in feldman's child psychology.By living with left-behind children,researchers have a more thorough understanding of the physiological,cognitive,social and personality changes of the subjects.Through in-depth research,a series of good changes were found in the child after the mother came back.Finally,the research summary and Suggestions were put forward.I try my best to describe the research process accurately,and try to restore the real life and learning of left-behind children,so that readers can feel the original process of left-behind children changing.Based on the summary of the research,I appeal to the government,society,school and family to take active actions in the last four aspects,so that more parents can return to their children,meet their needs,and make our family and society more harmonious.