The Development Of Individual Loving And The Systematic Exploration Of Loving Education In Primary School,Middle School And University

We have been advocating the cultivation of students' love all the time.Some primary and middle schools are also carrying out love education activities,such as volunteering at the nursing home and love donations.However,these activities tend to pay more attention to the "ritual" of love education.They mechanically require students to take care of others,ignoring the level and stage of the students' love development.On the basis of exploring the nature of love,this article first analyzes the three elements that constitute love,namely the subject of love,the object of love,the behavior and emotion of love,and the relationship between the subjects of love.On the basis of the essence of love and the elements of love,the level of love and the classification of love are proposed.Love contains two categories of productive love and unproductive love.Productive love is the process in which the subject of love expresses the emotion of love using the act of love,and the other subject understands the subject's feelings of love and reacts to this action.In this process,there is a communicative relationship between the subjects,so the productive ability of love can break through the separation from others and understand others.Unproductive love is the improper behavior of love due to the materialization of the subject of love,the lack of basic elements of love emotions,or the difference in values between the subjects,so that the relationship between the subjects of love cannot be established.It is simply a relationship of acceptance,exploitation,hoarding,and trading.The development of love's ability is a process of gradually moving from closed to open in the interaction with others,and from unproductive to productive.There are three levels of love.The first level of love is the love developed from the instinctive love of animals,and it is love based solely on individual emotions.The second level of love is the love of acceptability constraints.Individuals not only consider emotional factors in human communication,but also accept the constraints of various moral codes.The third level of love is that the individual fully exerts his creative role on the basis of establishing his subjective status,accepts his love for others and his own ideals and beliefs,and has a strong affection and action for others..Based on the theory of individual development stage and the empirical research of psychology,this article puts forward the theory of individual love development stage and analyzes the influencing factors in the process of love development.It is proposed that individual love is gradually developed from the first level of love to the second level Love,the second level of love and the individual's own values and beliefs combine to develop into the third level of love.As far as the object of love is concerned,the object of the individual's love is from the person who gradually expands close to himself and the specific stranger,and finally to the abstract stranger.The starting point for the development of individual love is self-love.In the interaction with the surrounding people,dearness and friendship have been developed,the external norms of love have been internalized to develop rational friendship and fraternity,and the external norms have been combined with their own values.Get up and develop into fraternity and love.Unproductive self-love comes from human instinct and is the basis for ensuring the survival and development of individuals.Productive self-love is the process by which individuals can realize themselves actively and actively create the essence of self.It is also the starting point for the development of a person's ability to love.Unproductive dearness,the status or relationship between the lover and the beloved is often unequal,and the lover gives unilaterally to the beloved.Unproductive friendship is accidental and short-lived,based on the external performance of both friends.Productive dearness and productive love can mutually promote development after being produced.Unproductive fraternity is an unattainable command of external authority to ignore individual subjectivity.Productive cellular love is the individual's love for others under the condition of reasonable self-interest,and is the unity of self-love and cellular love.Philanthropy and love are the highest manifestation of individual love,which is the combination of individual love for others and self-worth.According to the research of individual love development stage,love education should also carry out different but interconnected love education in different development stages according to the individual development stage.In the preschool age,we should pay attention to the development of individual self-love;during elementary school,we should focus on cultivating the love and friendship of individuals;during junior high school,we should focus on the development of individual friendship and fraternity,and guide individuals to develop from unproductive fraternity into production love;in high school and college,it focuses on the cultivation of individual fraternity and love.