Unfinished Love Of Attachment Representation And Its Mating Strategy Of Inquiry,

First romantic relationship is the first time that a person contacted opposite sex closely.Some people successed, but more are unsuccessful. First romantic relationship has profound influence on a man's love view and mate selection, especially the unsuccessful. Therefore, the study for first romantic relationship has a positive influence for the education of the contemporary university student.This study aims to study the influence of unsuccessful first romantic relationship to mate selection.Therefore, we don't make explicit time and behavior definition for first romantic relationship, but the first love in their heart.Unsuccessful first romantic relationship is that the first love is over before wedding. The main method of this research is using qualitative research and quantitative research combined. According to the content, we selected the person whose first love was unsuccessful. All the data was collected by the in-depth interviews. Using the question of open reaction as the means of in-depth interviews, we analysed the information by open coding, axial coding, finally selective coding into the core categories, and quantify the concept of core classes, concept words,elements.The results showed that:1.At the beginning of first love, male is more active than female, and most of the original relationship are classmates(56.25%);2.Most of people think that first love is bright, happy, and sweet.Some people even think that first love is the most precious memory in life;3.The types of first love attachment styles are the safe (70.0%),the indifferent(23.75%) and the anxiety(6.25%);.4.The attachment representation of first love includes 5 core categories:meeting,knowing each other, loving, breaking up, and awareness;5.The people in first love is more careful in condition of outside, compared with the external conditions in marriage;6.After the first love,the mate selection strategies is tend to calculated mate selection, and female is more tendency to calculated mate selection than male.