A Study On The Problems And Countermeasures Of The Parenting Style Of Two-Child Families

In 2015,with the full liberalization of the two-child policy,more and more families are choosing to have a second child.The birth of a second child has changed the previously stable family structure and brought in new family members,to make parents invest more energy and time in the second child,this will have a greater impact on the physical and mental health of the first child.Whether the two-child family and the onechild family use the same educational means and methods in the education and upbringing of two children,how the parents handle the relationship between two children,etc.through the discovery of a series of two-child families in the existence of the problem,the relationship between the upbringing of reasonable and effective countermeasures to help family harmony and social stability.This study is based on four dimensions of Baumlind's evaluation of parenting style: control,maturity requirements,clarity of parent-child interaction and care and support.Questionnaire and interview were used to investigate the parenting style of the second child in Shanghai.In the questionnaire survey,Songjiang District,Jinshan District,Yangpu District and Pudong New District of Shanghai were selected,including one municipal demonstration kindergarten,three first-class kindergartens and two secondclass kindergartens.The subjects of this study are parents of six kindergartens in four districts,106 parents of two-child families born after two-child fertility policy for couples where either the husband or the wife is from a single-child family and 102 parents of one-child families.Using the method of questionnaire survey,a large number of data were obtained.Based on the understanding of the current situation,the parents of eight two-child families were interviewed,which led to a deeper understanding of the causes the problems of the second child's upbringing,the causes of the problems and the corresponding countermeasures to make up for the deficiencies brought by the questionnaire survey and analysis,so as to make the research more objective and authentic.Based on the research conclusion,the parents and children of two-child families have some problems in the four dimensions of family atmosphere,parenting requirements,parenting style,and interaction style.According to the analysis of the causes of the problems,the following suggestions are put forward for the parenting of two-child families: firstly,parents should improve their education literacy and optimize their parenting style in terms of education methods;At the same time,as parents,they need to pay attention to their children's psychology,balance love and attention;in terms of parenting requirements,parents need to understand and respect the talent of two children,and train on the basis of following the law of physical and mental development of two children,forming effective rules in line with age characteristics and explicit and effective requirements of public morality parenting;in terms of emotional interaction,parents and children need to enhance emotional interaction To encourage children to express care and love;to enhance emotional interaction between children and let the first child participate in education.Secondly,in terms of children,parents should understand their children's "self-centered",appreciate children of different temperament types,and make reasonable expectations and requirements;in addition,parents should pay attention to the psychological state of the first child.Finally,in the family atmosphere,we should create a warm,harmonious and tolerant family atmosphere,form the common value trend of family members,let the first child feel the happiness of growing up together with younger siblings,and give more fatherly love and company.