Being In Love After Getting Married

Since the reforming and openness, swarms of the labor in rural area go outside to make a living, this trend causes great impact on the city and considerable changes to rural areas, including peasant laborer's marriage certainly."The lightning marriage to young peasant laborer"is used for studying case in the paper. This paper will discuss the profound origins of"the lightning marriage", with adopting the methods of the deep interview and the questionnaire investigation."The lightning marriage"as the reasonable choice to the young peasant laborer at the present stage, indicates that they are seeking a middle of the road line between the tradition and the modernity. Superficially,"the lightning marriage"is a kind of fashion, but it is only another kind of the form be preserved after the"the past"packed. Or, speaking accurately, it is the result that the tradition is being rebuilt constantly on the modern basis. The process of this rebuilt seems an individual behaviors, but the factors on culture and system are much more profoundly. City and countryside binary system structure existing in china causes the countryside transient population in the life and society action be repelled in the city mainstream life, the contact circle and the cultural activity. The social relation systematism leads to"love systematism"—the same registered resident connecting through the marriage. The marriage knotting to the macroscopic social structure forces them to have no way to find the companion in the city. So they have the vision on the opposite sex from the hometown or work place. But rare leisure and expensive traveling expenses enable them only to return to the tradition on individual marriage choice—"orders from the parents, words from the matchmaker". At the back of this marriage phenomenon, it is sour, astringent and helpless, which is the times and the tradition leaving for them.