Study On The Relationship Between Maternal Parenting Behavior And Children’s Resilience

It is a very important significance to pay attention to the children’s ability of anti frustration. It is not only an important factor in the quality of children’s learning, but also related to the child’s future life and mental health. This study from the mother’s parenting behavior point of view, trying to find the mother’s parenting behavior and children’s resilience between the theory of child development, enrich the original in theory, provide the reference basis for the mother in practice. This research mainly conducts the research from two aspects:First of all, this study of 190 children in Shengze area S kindergarten mother issued a questionnaire, and uses SPSS 19.0 to carry on the chi squared test and analysis of correlation, a preliminary understanding of anti frustration ability present situation of children, and to examine the relationship between the two. A conclusion was drawn that the children’s resilience is not high, anti frustration ability level and educational level of parents, and old people live, whether the only child; in the mother’s rearing style, the degree of punishment and children’s resilience is significantly related to children’s growth expectations; spatial interference and anti frustration ability significantly related; protection and child resistant frustration is significantly related to the sense of respect and children; resilience; emotional expression and children’s resilience; pleasant mood and children’s resilience was significantly correlated.Secondly, on the basis of the questionnaire survey, the author selected 4 representative of the mother to take the interview method, results show that:in the cultural level is an important factor influencing children’s mother resilience; emotional stability, peace of mind and mother, children are more likely to persist and brave; indulge in parenting process and doting mother, are more likely to cause children lose the spirit of exploration, psychological vulnerability; requirements too harsh mother, children can easily give up, no confidence, did not dare to express their ideas.Thirdly, based on the analysis of the questionnaire and the interview, the author of the children’s mother factors of setbacks, to accept the challenge of the performance of children, family background, family environment rearing methods to sort out, and based on this, try to put forward suggestions and strategies to improve children’s ability of anti frustration. The research shows that, the mother should build a harmonious, relaxed family atmosphere, respect for children, to give children the space and freedom of choice, make the appropriate use of "punishment",and know how to use the positive way to communicate with the children, guide the children to learn independent skills, improve their ability of anti frustration.