Changchun City College Dating Behavior

In order to correctly grasp the dynamics of the situation of university relations and friends, and standards change so as to promote our college students to choose the correct way of interpersonal relationships to form a good state of mind, effectively contributed to the overall development of their own quality, and the author in the 2008 school year in the first half of the term of the end of term , Jilin Province, the college students were on a new era of college friends of the basic behavior of the investigation in order to display an objective human relationships in contemporary college students the basic outlook of college students to understand the new characteristics of interpersonal, psychological and social perspective of its mode of development of exchanges .First, make friends act on the impact of contemporary college students1, making friends is to meet the basic needs of students. Maslow's theory needs to be divided into physiological needs, security needs, social needs and respect the needs and demands self-five, followed by a lower level to a higher level. Through Maslow's theory of behavior needs, we find that people are eager to make friends side, they are eager to be concerned about, understand, as well as through its own desire to achieve value for other people and groups to contribute to creating value. The same is true of contemporary college students, making friends is to meet the basic needs of the contemporary college students.2, making friends is the driving force for the growth of college students personality. Socialization is a natural person by the person's social transformation process, everyone must be socialized to make is that outside their own social code of conduct, guidelines into their own standards of conduct, which is the basis of social interaction and community-based human-specific The act is only in human society can be achieved. And the University is a natural person from the community were the key to the transition period to adapt to such groups, with each individual to get along with the exchange of university students is essential to grow as a person.3, the failure of friends is the great frustration of university students. Now, on campus, many students, particularly male students, often think that they had a few "iron buddy abuse" and pride, they will in order to "iron buddy abuse" and talk about the so-called loyalty. In fact, this "buddy loyalty child" is actually based on ignorance and blind obedience, not based on emotional impulses, is a non-rational behavior, in particular, it is often a line similar to the old community to help breathing. Is out of tune with the modern civilized society, is simply incompatible. Friendship is built on mutual understanding and help each other on the basis of, but also loyalty. However, this is the principles of loyalty, is built on the basis of safeguarding the interests of the collective. If you do not debate right and wrong "for the two friends threatened knife inserted" and even reckless and irresponsible to meet the requirements of improper friends, this is not a true friend, let alone a real loyalty, in the end, only harm Others and ourselves.Second, college students make friends behavior questionnaire design1, the questionnaire designed by the guiding ideology: the questionnaire in the form of contemporary college students to analyze the behavior of friends, friends through their conduct research to identify schools, community, family of contemporary college students. The findings of the meta-analysis carried out to identify problems and a number of signs in a timely manner to solve the problem, to resolve the crisis.2, and the contents of the questionnaire: The 200 college students to investigate, mainly concentrated in the survey group's senior graduating to the community of people, they are natural to the people closest to the turning point in the transformation of people through their friends to investigate the current situation and make friends, find the most Representative.Through 35 to investigate the issue, mainly on the contemporary college students investigation into the conduct of friends. Each survey question is in level 5, the findings of the meta-analysis of data, to reflect the problem.3, analysis of the results of the survey: The survey found that the act of making friends of the contemporary college students as a whole is healthy and positive, but there is also a small number of students to make friends because of inadequate environmental, psychological, interpersonal skills deficiencies, the focus should be to strengthen the integrity of college education And the ideological and moral construction.Third, the act of making friends on the college guidanceYou should do some concrete work:First of all, to improve the environment for making friends from the social environment is starting to eliminate some of the bad atmosphere in society, and college students to create a green space, which requires the whole community to take action to raise awareness and change attitudes and create a fair, just and moral social system . Starting from the family environment, the parents of the children's first teachers, parents every move, every word and deed have a profound impact on children, their ways of thinking and awareness of children is essential. To improve the campus environment, to promote the exchange of university students, university students and social exchanges to create a convenient and comfortable environment.Second, strengthen the college students make friends in the right side of the guide, an example has boundless power through some of the advanced character and deeds, so that students have been inspired effort. The guide is also critical to their elders, their legitimate concerns and recommendations allow students to enter the community, there is a natural person into the community's few detours in the process of increasing knowledge. Schools should enhance the college students in the interpersonal skills to provide support for the ideological and moral education of college students, the ability to provide appropriate education platform.Finally, to enhance the ability to make friends, especially the ability to identify right and wrong, friends and the ability to control the development of personality. For fresh graduates and lay a solid foundation.